With my other half away for the past three nights, I have noticed something about my parenting that I find fascinating.
Left to my own devises, I seem to be able to get everything done all while remaining more calm than usual. I think there are a several reasons for this.
Getting things done:
- when alone, I’m not waiting for or telling someone else to help out with dinner/dishes/bath time etc. This saves quite some time and the kids get to bed earlier than normal
- when there is no other option, I don’t feel the same resentment about having to do these chores
- there is no-one else to blame for things not being done, so unless I rant at myself there is no ranting
- having no ‘back up’ during tantrums (from the kids) means that I have to stay more calm. Usually I can walk away and let someone else deal with things if I need to, but with just me there, I am very aware of the need to be the grown up
Now that my other half is back, I will try to stick to being my calmer self. Perhaps it’s not as difficult as it seems?